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Wicked cool questionaire I found on-line...



LAYER 1: (I'm going to be very vague about these, for privacy reasons):Tell us your...*

Name: Melissa

Birthday (month, day): January 25

Birthplace: Concord, Massachusetts

Current location: Worcester, MA

Eye color: brown

Hair color: brown

Height: 5'7

Righty or lefty: Righty

Zodiac sign: Aquarius (with Gemini rising, if you're interested)



LAYER 2:What's...*

Your heritage: English/Irish/Scottish

The shoes you wore today: pink and blue slipper socks until I showered, now I'm barefoot

Your weakness: cookie dough and a good book

Your fears: getting really, really sick, dying, someone I love getting really, really sick or dying

Your perfect pizza: mushrooms, hamburger, and onions, deep dish

Goals you’d like to achieve: to raise happy, healthy children who love each other and care about the world around them - to have a marriage that's as vital and loving fifty years from now as it is today

Your first waking thoughts: Where's my coffee?

Your best physical feature: I think my eyes or my legs

Your most missed memory: I don't really miss anything - I pretty much just like where I am :-)



LAYER 3:Do you...*

Smoke: Nope, never

Cuss: All the time

Sing: loudly and often, frequently to the tune of You are My Sunshine

Do you think you’ve been in love: Yes, definitely. I'm in love with my husband right now. *

Did you go to college: Yes. Although I dropped out after a year

Liked high school: I really did

Want to get/stay married: I did, although never really thought about marriage until I met my husband. I'm staying married forever :-)

Believe in yourself: depends on the situation

Think you’re attractive: depends on the day

Think you’re a health freak: not even a little bit

Get along with your parent(s): I love and adore my mother. I haven't seen my father in fifteen years, I'm okay with it.

Like thunderstorms: adore them

Play an instrument: I can play Doe A Deer on a piano, that's about it



LAYER 4:In the past month have you…*

Drank alcohol: No - I think the last time I drank was at my cousin's wedding in September

Smoked: No*

Done a drug: Well, if Tylenol counts as a drug, then yes.*

Made out: Yes*

Gone on a date: No*

Gone to the mall: Yes

Eaten an entire box of Oreos: Sadly, no - I love Oreos, just haven't run into any

Eaten sushi: No.*

Been on stage: No.*

Been dumped: No.*

Gone skating: No.*

Gone skinny dipping: No*

Stolen anything: No



LAYER 5:Have you ever…*

Played a game that required removal of clothing: No*

Been trashed or extremely intoxicated: Yes, but not in years

Been caught “doing something”: yes - the perils of an unlocked door and small cherubs

Been called a tease: No*

Gotten beaten up: No*

Shoplifted: no



LAYER 6:* Age you did
get/hope to be married: 28 - I always planned on 28. Jess was born two weeks after I turned 29. We didn't get married until I was almost 30 - but in all reality, Marc and I were functionally married when we met ;-)

Numbers and names of children (either you have or want): Jessica Mary and Samuel Earl. We're hoping for #3 next summer - I'm thinking Benjamin or Julianna or Megan

Describe your dream mate: My husband is everything I ever wanted in a man. He is brilliant, loving, sensitive, funny, a phenominal parent, responsible, can rewire a dryer and install a light fixture, and a good provider. He cleans the bathroom and does the trash all the time. He's also tall, dark, and very handsome ;)*

How do you want to die: I really don't want to. Ever.

What did you want to be when you grow up: A mom, and also a writer.

What country would you most like to visit: Scotland, Ireland, Australia, Russia... there's really nowhere I don't want to go.



LAYER 7: Now tell...*

Name a person you could trust with your life: My husband*

Name a favorite CD that you own: probably the Eagles or Bonnie Raitt

Number of piercings: I actually have three, two in one ear, one in the other. I don't wear earrings though, I always get infections and they bug me.

Number of tattoos: none

Number of times my name has appeared in the newspaper: I have no idea. *

Name a past experience that you regret: Going to college - in retrospect, it didn't really change my life course at all, and I really couldn't afford it. So I ended up dropping out and now am saddled with student loans.

Apple muffins

There are moments, fortunately for me, they happen with a reassuring frequency, when I stop and think to myself - this, right here, this is one of the best moments of my life. This morning, baking apple muffins with my little girl and my little boy, was one of them. We peeled, cored and diced two apples, mixed all the ingredients together, and then made muffins. They taste terrible, with chunks of soft apple all mixed up in this gluey sort of mess, but Jessie says they're wonderful and she'd like to take them to school. If they ever have school again (we're going on day three of snow days, with Saturday and Sunday in the middle).

I've had cherubs here pretty much non-stop since Friday, and today is glorious in that I only have my two. Sam's playing with firetrucks and animal figurines and Jess is watching Polly Pocket. My house is reasonably clean, my kids are healthy and happy and not fighting, my husband is loving me and safe at work, and my life is pretty much exactly what I always wanted it to be.

Fatigue - just overwhelming fatigue

It's been a non-stop play date here since Friday morning, and I'm so unbelievably tired right now. I stayed up too late reading and then the kids took turns waking me up every couple of hours. They alternated, with each one taking only one turn (except for Sam, who volunteered not only do it once on his own, but to piggy back onto everyone else, so that once I'd get a girl back to sleep, I'd then have to get him to sleep again). They all appear well rested and content, meanwhile, I've been up for about two hours and am still struggling to open my eyes all the way.

Much, much going on - too much for my little brain to handle this early, and while I'm going to attempt to blog about them all, it'll probably be all disjointed and incoherent.

Marc was a phenominal husband and father Friday and Saturday. Really - can't rave enough about it. He was up, he was focused, he was involved, it was so lovely. He did the dishes, he cooked, he cleaned the bathroom, all on his own and with no prompting. FABULOUS. Then on Sunday - it all fell apart - and it was so sad and frustrating, especially after two days of such highlights. He sat and watched football or played on the computer while the hordes of children ran wild in my house and yelled and screamed and stomped. It was terrible - and I'm still mad at him because of it. I'm a firm believer that when we're both here, we both work. At least with the childcare. I'll do the vast majority of housework and cooking, it's my job now - but being cast as Cinderella and the massive evil stepmother just pisses me off... I have to be that much more of a bad guy because he's chilling and enjoying himself. Makes me crazy...

The vendor fair on Saturday went great - it was LOVELY to step outside of the Mommy role and be a fully functional adult, in charge and responsible. I really, really enjoyed it. I am so very happy with my life right now, being the stay at home mommy, and wouldn't change it for the world, but it's very nice to remember that there was a time when I had a whole other life that was complete and whole without kids. I wouldn't ever want to live there again, but it's nice to visit every once and a while...

And now... onto the biggest dilemma in my little world... Christmas. I miss it. A lot. And I feel tremendously guilty about not having a tree this year... I do feel as though I'm depriving my kids of an incredible experience for no real reason. Like they deserve to have this tradition, I deserve to be able to give it to my children and I'm not doing it... for no reason that makes any sense at all to me. It doesn't conflict with converting to Judaism for me at all. I can see where people who have grown up Jewish would think there was a conflict, but for me, it seems like a punishment for a crime that I committed by being born not Jewish, and it's just so unfair and WRONG. I'm trying hard, but the closer I get to Christmas, the more I feel like I'm doing the wrong thing, and that if this is the price I have to pay, to deny myself and my children of my favorite time of the year, then perhaps that price is too high.

I think my children are as much mine as Marc's. And that to ignore my traditions is monumentally unfair to me and to them. And I think it's entirely possible that you're going to find a very small, very tasteful tree in my living room before too long.

Maybe she'll be a writer

It's hard not to try and get your kids not to live out your dreams. I always wanted to be a writer, for as long as I remember wanting to be anything. Other than a mom. I wanted that as soon as I figured out that it was an option :-). But all thru junior high and high school, that was my dream. I say dream on purpose, because it wasn't a goal, I never really tried to do it, but it was always my dream... and I thought today, that perhaps that's what my Jessica will do.

She creates stories ALL the time. She doesn't lie, because that's done usually with malicious intentions, and she's not making stuff up to get out of trouble - she just likes to create stories and present them as fact. For no apparent reason that I can discern - other than that it's just fun to make stuff up. The most recent example was when she told me that on Friday, Trevor had said that she pushed him and she hadn't. She said she had been punished by having to miss out on going to the library. Upon further investigation (I emailed her teacher), not only was Jessie never in trouble, she's never been in trouble, and there is, in fact, no child named Trevor in the either kindergarten class.

Okay, so I look like an idiot, and my child looks like a lunatic - but I'm proud of her, and impressed at her creativity... and secretly dreaming of having her first book dedicated to me :-)

Calming down

I'm more relaxed about it. The whole Christmas/Judaism thing. It's not an easy situation, but given how incredibly lucky I am in so many ways - this is really a good problem to have. My kids are healthy and happy, my marriage is vibrant and strong, and I'm going to do my very best to focus on that. On making sure that I'm happy with my decision, not making sure that everyone around me is. As long as Marc and I are on the same page (and we are) and presenting a united front to the kids, then the kids are thrilled and happy - and that's what matters. At least that's what I'm going to continue telling myself :-)

Moving on... I'm home today with just my little boy. Jordyn will be here tonight and Jess is missing dance because we don't have a way to get her there. Annie is working, John is working, and I don't want to have Yvonne out driving in the rain. So we'll have a nice, peaceful afternoon. I'm making a lovely dinner, perhaps I'll even bake a cookie or two. Clean the house, mop the floor, do some laundry, it'll be very relaxed and peaceful today. Laundry is spinning, I just finished my second cup of coffee, Sam's eating fruit and cereal for breakfast (as opposed to the chocolate and cheerios I sent Jess off to school with). I gave Jess carrot sticks for lunch, so I'm counting on that to make up for the candy for breakfast. I've discovered that a touch of chocolate will cut off a temper tantrum, and honestly, it's a price I'm willing to pay sometimes.

It's official - Sam is as dramatic as his sister

I was running a bit late this morning (which doesn't have much to do with the story), Marc had gotten a ride into work early, and I had to drop Jess off at school. I made the challah this morning, and wanted to get it done before I left the house, so I didn't rush Jess or Sam and we had a peaceful, relaxed morning. Everyone was dressed, fed and cheerful before we started out. We dropped Jessica off, and she got there before the attendance was taken, so she wasn't actually late, which was lovely, and then I crossed the street with Sam to go to the grocery store. Which was where I ran into the first temper tantrum. Sammy likes to 'click' himself in. He likes to get into his car seat by himself, and then click the top of it while I click in the bottom. Only this time, it all went awry. I clicked him in all the way, and he started screaming. He screamed while I walked around the car, got inside, and reached back to unclick him. At which point he started screaming that he wanted to take his jacket off.

I didn't let him do that, and when he didn't stop screaming and click himself, I reached back and did it myself. So he cried the whole way to the grocery store. He cried all the way thru the store, culminating in an out and out knock down fit in aisle nine when I refused to buy the little thing of flour. I only needed a little bit for the challah, and didn't really want to spend any money on it, but the five pound bag was twenty cents more than the one pound bag, and Marc would KILL me if I bought the little one. I left him in the aisle, did the self check out, retrieved my screaming toddler (although I would have preferred to pretend I didn't know him - I've been there enough so that everyone recognizes he's mine), brought him out the car, buckled him in, still screaming (although he did manage to click himself that time) and brought him home. At which point, he snapped out of it, and is now happily having a snack and milk.

Merry Sunshines

Not all the time, but mostly, I really like mornings. I like getting everyone up and out of bed, picking out clothes, fixing breakfast, brushing hair and kissing people goodbye as they dash out the door. And even better, after everyone has left and it's just me and Sam and whatever toddler I've got for the day, I fix another cup of coffee and smile to myself. Life is good.